By Jayne Robinson
Personal Performance Coach – JR Coaching
Are you sick of the daily grind? Longing for a pause and a fresh start? What if you took that leap? We are often asked if we want to upgrade our meal or at least add fries, yet we don’t think to ask ourselves that question.
Let me ask you now… What kind of upgrade do you really need?
Is it time to do the very thing you fear most? Maybe it’s time for that upgrade but in the interim, you will have to fire and rehire yourself.
Firing and rehiring yourself does not have to be about physically leaving your business or life behind but rather about making a profound internal shift, allowing yourself to grow and evolve. It's a powerful process of self-reinvention that can help you rediscover your passion, purpose, motivation and best of all, who you really are.
How do I Fire and Rehire myself?
If you find yourself unhappy, trapped on the hamster wheel of relentless work and the need to control every outcome, it might be time to ask yourself this essential question:
What's Holding You Back?
Identify the beliefs, fears, or habits that are hindering your personal and professional growth. Are you clinging to an old way of working or thinking that no longer serves you?
Deconstructing limiting beliefs is an ongoing process that requires self-awareness and continuous effort. As you challenge and replace these beliefs with more empowering ones, you'll find yourself better equipped to pursue your goals and break free from the mental barriers that have been holding you back. Remember that personal growth and transformation take time, so be patient with yourself as you work through these beliefs.
These beliefs often act as mental barriers that hold us back from reaching our full potential.
5 Steps to Deconstruct Limiting Beliefs
Here are the 5 steps to follow to deconstruct limiting beliefs:
Step 1 - Awareness
The first step is to become aware of the beliefs that are hindering your progress. These beliefs are often deeply ingrained and may not be immediately obvious. Reflect on your thoughts and feelings regarding your work, capabilities, life and aspirations.
Example
Let's say you believe, "I'm not good enough to… (insert whatever belief comes to mind)." This belief can be a significant barrier if you aspire to become more or do something different to the way you always done things.
Step 2 - Question the Belief
Once you've identified a limiting belief, question its validity. Ask yourself why you believe it and whether there's any concrete evidence to support it.
Example
For the belief "I'm not good enough to…," question why you think you're not good enough. Have you successfully handled challenging projects, tasks, experiences, people in relation to that belief in the past? Is there any specific reason why you couldn't learn what you aspire to have or be?
Step 3 - Seek Evidence
Seek evidence that contradicts the limiting belief. Look for instances in your life when you've proven the belief wrong or when you've achieved success in areas that challenge the belief.
Example
Gather examples of your achievements and accomplishments in your career or personal life. Highlight moments when you demonstrated competence and determination.
Step 4 - Reframe
Reframe your belief into a more empowering and positive statement. Create a new belief that reflects your true potential and aspirations.
Example
Transform "I'm not good enough to…" into "I have the skills and determination to succeed at …."
Step 5 - Take Action
To solidify your new belief, take action that aligns with it. Step out of your comfort zone and engage in activities that challenge the old belief.
Example
Begin taking steps to own your happiness and fulfillment in the areas you desire, such as conducting research, creating a plan, or seeking guidance from experienced people who have what you aspire to do or be.
Lastly, challenge assumptions by examining your capabilities and limitations. Are you underestimating your potential, or perhaps overestimating your limitations? Challenge these assumptions to unlock new possibilities.
My Advice in Action
In May, I left for Bali unsure of when I would return, abandoning my old life, plagued by doubt and boredom. I had to make a change. This decision was tough; fear and resistance lurked at every step. But I knew I had to find the 'new me' buried under all that noise.
Change is never easy. Often, we hang on for dear life and resist. Even sitting on the plane, I questioned what I was doing and again when I arrived.
I knew underneath all the fear, panic, and doubt that there was a shiny new version of me just waiting to be unwrapped and taken for a spin. But I couldn’t get to her or hear her for all of the noise going on.
Sadly, this story isn’t unique, since sharing my “what am I doing with my life story” I’ve heard many women and men of all walks of life express those very challenges.
The beauty in the unknown was that when I surrendered, let go, and let Bali take me, the most wonderful, wild, and beyond-magical experiences took place. I shed old, outdated versions of me that needed to go! The best part: the Universe delivered it to me in far greater ways than I could have ever tried to control or manipulate, which was a big part of what I had to let go of… control.
It’s that old saying: “What got you here, won’t get you there.” Or as Albert Einstein says: “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”
You may be pleasantly surprised with your upgrade after all.
You don’t need to do it alone
Does it feel a little daunting to tackle these big questions? I can help guide you and your team so that you don’t need to do it alone. I have worked with clients like ABA Advice Beyond Accounting to coach their teams about mindset and positivity. That said, my coaching services are tailored to suit each individual and organization’s needs.
If you’re ready to Fire and Hire yourself, and would like support and guidance to make it happen, get in touch with me at jayne@jrcoaching.com.au